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Help With Relationship Problems
It doesn’t matter if you’re on your own, married, living together, single, gay, bisexual, straight or transgender, My Family Psychologist are here to help you, however, you identify.
We have experience in helping people from different backgrounds, including LGBT individuals and couples, so you can rest assured you will be able to speak to someone who can help and who meets your needs.
Lots of people have an idea of what relationship therapy is and think that you only need help when things get really bad.
But we are here whenever you need us, no matter what situation you face in your relationship. Even if your problems seem trivial, we can help.
What is Relationship Therapy?
Our psychologists and therapists provide a caring, supportive and non-judgmental environment to help you find a way through any difficulties you may be facing in your relationship.
Together we will first help you to identify and clarify the issues or problems you are facing in your relationship.
If couple therapy is the best way forward for both of you, you will embark on a series of sessions, anything between six and twelve sessions is usual, but it will depend on the issues that you want to address.
Both partners do not always have the same goals and for therapy to be helpful we need to establish an agreed focus for the therapy.
Our primary concern is that you get the best possible, appropriate source of help for your situation and in any case, we will always try to help you to provide the support that you need.
For some couples, therapy is the start of a long process of discovery while for others, a few sessions may be all they need to get through a rough patch.
We will discuss your expectations with you so that everything is clear from the start.
Therapy and Psychology are not a ‘magic’ solution, it requires commitment, engagement and hard work.
Many individuals and couples find the process leads to an improvement in their relationships; sometimes this involves separation and moving on apart/independently.
If this is the case for you it is likely that the two of you may experience different feelings and it may not be the outcome that one of you wanted.
If you do decide to separate we can help you to manage that process as painlessly as possible and, in particular can offer support to either or both of you with the grieving process and with issues around what and when to tell children about what has happened.
CBT Case Study
JD is a 20 year old woman who became known to mental health services when she was 19 years old. She self-referred following years of being experiencing intense feelings of worry and anxiety.
She was a happy child growing up and apart from the separation of her parents when she was 13 years old, she had not experienced any other particularly distressing life events. She was sociable at school and got on well with most of her peers. She worked hard in school and achieved good grades on her GCSEs and A levels. She engaged in activities outside of school including performing arts.
Despite this, during her teenage years, she began to engage in self harming behaviour and had constant fears that something bad was going to happen to her or her family. She experienced panic attacks and often would experience nausea and sickness. She would fail to meet deadlines because she feared her work would not be good enough.
She experienced intense fluctuating emotions and found it hard to regulate her them, often causing her to self-harm or shut herself off in order to cope. She never spoke to her family or friends about this. She had thoughts about ending her life, although never followed through with this as she was scared about how this would impact her family.
During assessment, she was found to meet the criteria for GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder) and borderline bi-polar. JD expressed that she struggled to sleep through ruminating thoughts and that she experienced physical sensations in her body including shaking and finding it hard to breathe.
The therapist decided that the best course of action would be to engage with Talking Therapies alongside being prescribed different anti-anxiety medication (SSRI – Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor Medication).
JD decided that she wanted to engage in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and consider different medication in the future.
JD began working with a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist over the phone. They had weekly telephone consultations and JD was sent some self-help guides to work through to work through her anxiety and diagnosis (This was done through psycho-education about her condition).
JD focused on addressing her thought processes and changing the way she thought about scenarios. The therapist worked with JD to challenge her thoughts and replace them with more helpful outcomes.
JD also began to think more realistically about her thoughts; JD often had thoughts that if she left the house for work, something bad would happen to her so she started asking herself, ‘What is the worst thing that could happen if I get on the bus and go to work?’.
She was able to break that cycle of unhelpful thinking to reduce her risk of experiencing unhelpful thoughts which lead to her experiencing physical symptoms of panic attacks.
JD also addressed her coping strategies in regards to her emotion management and self-harm behaviour. She began using positive self-talk to manage her emotions and re-framing her mindset so that she was able to think more positively and realistically.
JD had weekly sessions for one hour over 12 week period.